The book is basically an introduction to the five love languages and ways to tune into your spouse's love languages to love him or her better.
The profile assessment that you can take to learn about your love language overwhelmingly confirmed that my number one love language is acts of service.
I like to do.
Mr. Farmhouse's languages, however, are quality time and physical touch.
Opposites attract, right?
So over time, I have started to become more intentional with my time spent with Mr. Farmhouse and the girls.
I'm working on "speaking his love language" more, to strengthen our marriage and to be a good example to our children.
One of my lifelong bestie's main love languages is gifting.
She is so thoughtful.
She thinks of gifts months in advance.
She is always on the look-out for a good gift that the people in her life would "just love".
My mom is the same way.
I'm more of a "grab a gift card at Dollar General twelve minutes before the party" kind of girl, myself. (Anyone else?)
However, the farmhouse has been a great opportunity for me to appreciate the thoughtfulness behind those who have the "gift of gift".
What a humbling experience it has been to have our friends and family wrap us up during the (somewhat lengthly) transition we made from our familiar home of eleven years to our dear farmhouse.
God has been teaching me a lot about quality time and the importance of physical touch over the last few years.
He's been teaching me about the importance of sacrificing my comfort and agenda and how to work more on putting other people before myself...mainly my dear husband.
And now...He is teaching me about showing love through giving gifts.
I'm trying hard to look deep into those I love to find out more about the love languages that speak most clearly to them.
I'm a work in progress.
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Sometimes you can't go back to sleep after tucking the three-year-old back into bed at 4:45 a.m.
So you decide to do some online window shopping on Hobby Lobby's website.
Sometimes you accidentally put some items in your cart.
And enter your shipping information.
And your payment information.
Sometimes your online window shopping turns into actual online shopping.
I had a plan.
I was going to do a thing.
I was going to BUILD MY OWN FARMHOUSE TABLE for the new house.
I had pinned all kinds of plans.
I had measured and sketched and figured.
I had called and priced lumber.
I was ready.
I was going to build a farmhouse table for like $175. Amazing.
And then, I thought I would just check and make sure I couldn't find one for that price online.
I checked all over the Internet and NOPE, turns out $175 is the best price for the masterpiece I had planned!
I hopped onto Craiglist last weekend just to do a little browsing of any farmhouse tables that might have been around the Greater KC area in the last few months. Just looking for some ideas...some inspiration.
That's when I found it.
We'll be closing on the new house in a few short weeks.
We are looking forward to the memories to be made at the farmhouse, but also excited for the couple who will be purchasing our current home.
Our stories line up pretty perfectly.
We've known these "kids" for several years and we've always joked with them about how their relationship has really mirrored ours.
They were high school sweethearts.
They got married young.
We share a lot of the same hobbies and our tastes in decor are very similar.
So when they contacted us with aspirations to purchase our house, we felt very "at peace" about the whole situation. We decided to pray about it and look at the budget, as we discussed all the possibilities of where we might end up.
One possibility was my parents' house, staying in their basement.
With three kids.
And three dogs.
We also talked about buying some land and building a house, but there was the issue of going from a house with three nice big established outbuildings to a property with none.
For most of the land we were looking at, we would have to fork out about as much as we will be spending on the farmhouse for the land alone. And we would still have the expense of a house and shop added on top of that.
Plus, we have really loved taking this old house we live in now and loving on it to make it our own. The thought of starting with something brand new just didn't really feel like "us" at this point in our lives. We both love the character of older homes, so we were trying to build that character into our house plans which can get pretty costly.
So when I was sitting at Claire's softball practice one night and my sister-in-law mentioned her neighbors getting ready to put their house on the market, my heart leapt and a smile began to form on the corners of my lips.
After practice, the girls and I drove out there and we fell in love.
That's when the dreaming began.
The "Bungalow" Pinterest board was created.
I started sketching ideas of how to divide up the pasture and yard.
I emailed the realtor and set up a showing.
I began praying that if this was the house for us, that God would work it out.
And He did.
In a big way.
But that's a story for another day. ❤️